I’ve spent countless hours obsessing over my weight. You probably have to, or maybe you haven’t and in that case – high fives!

But, if you’re like me, you’ve probably tried a number of different diets, weight loss tricks, restriction methods, exercise programs, and the list goes on and on. It’s been a long, exhausting road – only to basically end up exactly where I started.

A few months ago, I bought The F*ck it Diet and it’s changed me. Obviously, it’s a process and a long winding road to get to the point of self-acceptance, but I’m on it. My mentality in regards t my body-image has completely changed, and I’ve actually started to kind of like myself???

Here’s a list of a bunch of crap I’ve tried, succeeded at, and then ended up right back where I started:

flat tummy teas

These are bullshit and the people who sell them to you online have either tricked themselves into believing they work or will actually do anything if the $$ amount on the check is big enough. They will help you detox, but a detox is a short-term solution to losing a little bit of weight, not body fat.

Don’t believe me? read this – scroll down to ‘Why should I trust this product?


Yes, I would actually take a few stool softeners or laxatives when I ate too much or felt a little bloated and NOT because I ACTUALLY needed them. I took them because I wanted my stomach to feel flat the next day. Guess what? Half the time that doesn’t work and it’s not an actual fix for anything. You will not lose actual fat because you took a laxative. You will lose water weight and other bodily waste…which will come back – incase that wasn’t obvious.

weight watchers

THIS. I used to LOVE talking about how WW was the diet that let you eat “whatever you want!”. You just have to obsessively track every. single. little. thing you eat. And feel guilty when you go over your daily points (they also give you weekly points just in case you go over on your daily ones, but in my opinion, it’s just a trap).

Fun fact – movie popcorn is probably the only reason I actually go to a movie-theater. I always get an order of popcorn and chocolate covered almonds and eat them together and feel unbelievable amounts of joy.

When on WW, I would bring shitty, low-calorie popcorn that I made in my microwave at home and a small amount of chocolate. It was NOT fun, and I wasn’t satisfied. And look, I get it. If you want something badly, you will likely have to sacrifice something else to get it. BUT you should not be sacrificing food…. Your body needs food. Your body was designed to understand when it had enough food. Stop trying to “trick” your body into doing weird things that science will just tell it not to do anyway!

low carb/no carb

I know this works. It WILL help you lose weight. I’ve tried it, I lost 20 lbs. I wore smaller clothes. Then, one day, I REALLY wanted a French fry. NOTHING was going to stop me. I had denied myself of French fries for long enough and I needed one. So, I had one. Then, I had bread, pasta, rice, EVERY CARB I COULD. And I was done with my low-carb diet. The end.

Basically, this is just like everything else. If you have the gusto to really stick to this, you’re amazing and I salute you. However, it’s just not natural.

obsessive + hard-core exercising

Another fun fact: I hate exercise. At least, I thought I hated it and now I know why. I’ve tried boxing, kickboxing, Orange Theory, HIIT, etc, etc, etc. I hated all of it. My body KILLED me after every class and not in the “I’m sore” way. In the “omg my back feels like it’s going to crack in half” way.

I don’t know about you, but I don’t think exercise should make you feel that way. I don’t think you should FORCE yourself to do something you genuinely don’t love. Find exercise that suits you. For me that’s riding a bike, going for a walk, paddle boating, dacning – all things that don’t HURT me. All things that I actually love.

That’s all I’m saying there. Do things you and your body love. Why put yourself through shit that doesn’t make you happy?  

Much like The F*ck it Diet I’m not telling you to NOT do any of these things, I’m simply sharing my personal experience with them. Honestly, they ALL worked, they all brought the number on the scale down. None of them made me happy though.  None of them made me feel like I accepted myself more. ALL of them ended with me bingeing and moving onto another diet.

and here’s the point of this whole post:

I’m trying to accept myself for exactly where I’m at. NOT at the weight I think I NEED to be in order to feel happy and content with myself. I mean, I could die tomorrow and never have been happy with my appearance. How insane is that? All because I wanted to fit into a certain size or look a certain way.

and ANOTHER THING…. No one else really cares what you look like. If your parents, family, friends, spouse, significant other or ANYONE else put you down because of your weight, they suck. Sorry, that’s harsh, but it’s true.

If you relate to any of these things, I SERIOUSLY encourage you to check out The F*ck it Diet.



  1. Michelle
    12.12.19 / 2:05 pm

    Love this post!! It’s so raw and so TRUE! I’m with ya on all this – I’ve tried everything out there and would still sneak late night pizzas! My theory was if I didn’t tell anyone I snuck in some pizza pies it didn’t happen. I definitely was living in some crazy denial. Now idgaf lol. I try to eat healthy ish just for my health but don’t get me wrong I still treat myself OFTEN! Love you just the way you are! 💕

    • Stef
      12.12.19 / 2:42 pm

      Thank you for reading and for sharing! I’m glad you treat yourself often, you should!! love you <3

  2. 12.12.19 / 8:29 pm

    I am the manager of JustCBD brand ( and I’m presently seeking to broaden my wholesale side of company. I am hoping anybody at targetdomain share some guidance ! I considered that the most suitable way to do this would be to talk to vape shops and cbd retailers. I was really hoping if anybody could suggest a reliable website where I can buy CBD Shops Mailing List I am already looking at, and On the fence which one would be the most ideal selection and would appreciate any guidance on this. Or would it be much simpler for me to scrape my own leads? Ideas?

  3. 12.12.19 / 6:41 pm

    May I simply say what a relief to discover somebody who really understands what they’re discussing on the web. You certainly understand how to bring an issue to light and make it important. More people must look at this and understand this side of your story. I was surprised that you are not more popular given that you most certainly possess the gift.

  4. 12.12.19 / 12:02 pm

    That is a really good tip especially to those fresh to the blogosphere. Brief but very accurate info… Thank you for sharing this one. A must read article!

  5. 12.12.19 / 9:55 pm

    When I originally commented I seem to have clicked the -Notify me when new comments are added- checkbox and now whenever a comment is added I receive four emails with the exact same comment. Is there an easy method you are able to remove me from that service? Cheers!

  6. 12.12.19 / 2:10 am

    A motivating discussion is worth comment. I believe that you should publish more on this subject, it might not be a taboo subject but usually people don’t talk about such subjects. To the next! Cheers!!

  7. 12.12.19 / 7:07 pm

    Oh my goodness! Awesome article dude! Thank you so much, However I am going through difficulties with your RSS. I don’t understand why I cannot subscribe to it. Is there anybody having identical RSS issues? Anybody who knows the answer will you kindly respond? Thanks!!

  8. 12.12.19 / 10:27 pm

    There is definately a great deal to find out about this subject. I love all the points you’ve made.

  9. 12.12.19 / 7:05 pm

    I must thank you for the efforts you have put in writing this website. I’m hoping to see the same high-grade content by you later on as well. In truth, your creative writing abilities has motivated me to get my very own website now 😉

  10. 12.12.19 / 4:32 am

    I love it when folks get together and share ideas. Great site, keep it up!

  11. 12.12.19 / 11:15 pm

    There is certainly a great deal to find out about this topic. I like all of the points you made.

  12. 12.12.19 / 9:06 am

    Hello there! I just would like to give you a huge thumbs up for your great info you have got here on this post. I’ll be returning to your blog for more soon.

  13. 12.12.19 / 2:51 am

    Wonderful post! We will be linking to this great article on our website. Keep up the good writing.

  14. 12.12.19 / 9:09 pm

    Excellent post. I will be going through many of these issues as well..

  15. 12.12.19 / 10:42 pm

    Hello there, I think your website may be having browser compatibility problems. Whenever I look at your web site in Safari, it looks fine however, if opening in Internet Explorer, it’s got some overlapping issues. I simply wanted to provide you with a quick heads up! Apart from that, fantastic site!

  16. 12.12.19 / 6:39 pm

    Aw, this was a very nice post. Finding the time and actual effort to make a superb article… but what can I say… I procrastinate a lot and never manage to get anything done.

  17. 12.12.19 / 8:53 pm

    Having read this I believed it was extremely informative. I appreciate you finding the time and energy to put this information together. I once again find myself spending a significant amount of time both reading and commenting. But so what, it was still worthwhile!

  18. 12.12.19 / 1:16 am

    Howdy! This blog post could not be written much better! Reading through this article reminds me of my previous roommate! He always kept preaching about this. I most certainly will send this information to him. Fairly certain he’s going to have a very good read. I appreciate you for sharing!

  19. 12.12.19 / 11:00 am

    Good post. I learn something new and challenging on blogs I stumbleupon on a daily basis. It will always be helpful to read content from other authors and practice a little something from other websites.

  20. 12.12.19 / 12:09 pm

    I want to to thank you for this very good read!! I definitely loved every little bit of it. I have you book-marked to check out new stuff you post…

  21. 12.12.19 / 12:50 am

    Hi, I do think this is a great web site. I stumbledupon it 😉 I am going to revisit yet again since I saved as a favorite it. Money and freedom is the best way to change, may you be rich and continue to help others.

  22. 12.12.19 / 1:33 am

    I blog quite often and I genuinely appreciate your information. This great article has really peaked my interest. I will bookmark your site and keep checking for new details about once a week. I subscribed to your RSS feed as well.

  23. 12.12.19 / 12:53 pm

    I need to to thank you for this good read!! I definitely enjoyed every bit of it. I have got you book marked to check out new stuff you post…

  24. 12.12.19 / 1:54 pm

    You’ve made some really good points there. I checked on the internet to learn more about the issue and found most individuals will go along with your views on this website.

  25. 12.12.19 / 10:10 pm

    An interesting discussion is definitely worth comment. I believe that you ought to write more about this topic, it may not be a taboo subject but usually people do not speak about these issues. To the next! Many thanks!!

  26. 12.12.19 / 9:46 am

    Can I simply say what a comfort to discover someone who actually understands what they’re talking about on the web. You definitely understand how to bring an issue to light and make it important. More people need to read this and understand this side of your story. I can’t believe you’re not more popular given that you most certainly possess the gift.

  27. 12.12.19 / 10:55 am

    You are so cool! I don’t think I’ve read through something like that before. So good to discover someone with some genuine thoughts on this topic. Seriously.. thanks for starting this up. This website is something that is required on the web, someone with a little originality!

  28. 12.12.19 / 9:08 pm

    Good information. Lucky me I found your blog by accident (stumbleupon). I have book marked it for later!

  29. 12.12.19 / 12:27 pm

    You need to take part in a contest for one of the highest quality sites on the internet. I am going to recommend this web site!

  30. 12.12.19 / 2:30 pm

    Oh my goodness! Incredible article dude! Thank you, However I am having problems with your RSS. I don’t understand the reason why I cannot subscribe to it. Is there anybody else getting the same RSS issues? Anyone that knows the answer can you kindly respond? Thanks!!

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *