…just be yourself and do whatever makes you happy
Sometimes functioning normally is too hard. Last week, someone told me I was spreading myself too thin.
I think I’m pretty young (28), and right now, the cool thing to do is “hustle” so that’s what I’m doing (duh). Everyone is trying to be an influencer or an entrepreneur. We want to be our own boss and make a name for ourselves without relying on some big corporate giant to employ us (at least that’s true for me). It’s a lot of pressure.
Aside from all that, we’re trying to eat less, work out more, spend time with our friends, get married, buy a house, have babies, make time for self- care and self-love (whatever that is), and keep it all together without being honest about how difficult all of that is. Basically, just do what is expected of you without complaining because other people do it and there are no excuses.
I want to be this person…
The one who everyone can come to when they need her, the perfect, understanding wife, the woman who is super excited about maybe having a kid in a couple of years, the friend who texts or calls at least once a week to see how you’re doing, the daughter who is accomplished and successful, and the list goes on. As I type this, I actually feel my arms going numb. Because it’s daunting. Am I right?!
Not sure why I feel like I “should”
Seriously though, why do we feel like we should be doing certain things? Or we should accomplish something by a specific time in our lives? (everyone has an opinion – here’s what I think about that)
Someone else (I can’t remember who, but if it was you, please remind me) told me to stop worrying about what I should do and start focusing on whats happening right now. Perhaps that would keep me from spreading myself so thinly.
Living in the present is such a foreign concept to me. To be honest, I think it is for most people. When you think about it, most of what we do is for our future selves. Like if we keep plugging away at something, we’ll get to the point where we’re happy and we have everything we need. That bank account will reflect the perfect balance, that home will be our dream home, etc.
it just isn’t realistic –
To think we’ll ever get there. Because there is a chance we wont. Simply because we won’t allow ourselves to. We always want more. There will always be a thing that improves our current reality and that’s just the truth.
So maybe the answer is just to live in the present moment. Think about where you are right now –
- What about it fulfills you? and if it doesn’t,
- Why are you there?
- How are you going to improve your current reality?
I asked myself those question 3 months ago
And that’s why I’m “spreading myself too thin” right now. And really living in the moment everywhere I am.
with love & gratitude,
steph (sometimes spelled stef) ;P