why I went from being a flat-ironing, straight-hair loving fanatic, to a diffuser-using, curly hair loving normal person
Have you been hiding your curly hair for years? Spending hours blowdrying it and flat ironing it to get the perfect, frizz-free, straight look? If your answer is yes, than you’re just like me!
I spent years hating my hair. I’ve been yanking my curls straight ever since the day I turned thirteen. It felt better to have straight hair, like somehow it made me prettier and I fit in more, but none of that actually happened, I was a “loser”in middle school and (let’s be honest) high school too. It’s safe to say, no one liked me more because of my hair.
Although, I think wearing it straight gave everyone one LESS thing to make fun of me about (shout out to all the people who made fun of me for not being able to afford a juicy track suit, called me sandy cheeks because of my teeth, called me beetle juice, etc, etc.)
now that that’s out of the way…
Straight hair made me feel normal. Growing up, having tight curls was like getting dealt a bad hand. It wasn’t “pretty” to have frizzy roots and patches of dry hair. For the first few years of my life, I wore my curls out, but I envied my friends with effortlessly beautiful, straight, shiny hair. I wanted it too.
and I would have it at all costs…
I’d spend hours at the hair salon every week getting my long mane blown out and flat ironed. They would wash my hair, put it in rollers, sit me under a dryer for TWO hours, blow my hair straight, then flat iron it. The whole process took about 3.5 hours.
I don’t even want to tell you how many hours I’ve spent JUST trying to get my hair straight. All of the Keratin treatments, Brazilian blow outs, relaxers, the list goes on and on.
my hair now
When quarantine started, Greg and I were in Florida. It was humid, hot and the thought of standing in the bathroom for two hours with a blow-dryer and a flat iron seemed like hell. So, I said screw this; One day after washing my hair I thought “i’ll straighten it next week”. As the weeks went on, I started to research ways to get my curls back, make them healthy-looking again, and I stopped straightening.
It seems INSANE, but not having to worry about spending all of that time on my hair is so liberating. And I actually like myself more. I actually like my hair. I cannot wait until all of keratin-treated damage grows out and my REAL curls have their day. For now, I’m settling for my very confused, curly, wavy mess.
And now, I only straighten my hair ONCE every 6-8 weeks when I have it cut. I know many people completely stop doing that when they start their curly hair journey, but I like to have options. Even though I love my curls, I still like having the freedom to switch it up sometimes.
Are you on a natural hair journey too? What are your healthy hair secrets?
Products I love for my curls:
with love & gratitude,